The greatest lesson I’ve learned in my life is that when I’ve said something to offend or hurt someone, even if it’s unintentional, to just apologize, the same way that if I accidentally stepped on your toe I would automatically say, “Oh, I’m sorry! Are you ok?”

(Rather than, “That wasn’t my intention and I didn’t do it on purpose, so you can’t be hurt. Your foot is feeling things that aren’t there! The pain isn’t real because I’m not a foot stepper! *That* person’s foot doesn’t hurt!”)

The vast majority of times people aren’t intending to hurt you, but the way they react to being told you were hurt says a lot about them and whether or not you should keep them around.

@SuzanEraslan I knew a trans woman who had a good friend from high school who said he didn't agree with her decision, but he still wanted to be her friend.

She cut him off. I was like, "Why? People disagree on things; even fundamental life things. But if you cut off everyone who agrees with you, then no one challenges you, you build and echo chamber and you close your mind. It's much more difficult to always try and see and learn how other people see the world."

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The worst is when you explain to someone exactly how they hurt you, and their response is...

"I'm sorry you feel that way"

🙄 👊

@Averly “I’m sorry you were offended,” not, “I’m sorry I offended you” ranks equally with that one for me... as in they BOTH suck.

@amphetamine @SuzanEraslan

These people are "serial nopologers" until THEY get hurt and then it becomes everyone else's problem.

AKA sociopaths

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