the word "queer," identity/usage/perception 

i am genuinely tired of explaining that this is not a bad word anymore and to a lot of us its better than lgbtq+/etc (my personal reasons being that theres no universal abbreviation and its too easily misused by "allies" and assholes tryna mock)

im tired of the moment of silence around cishet folks when i use it, and im tired of some queer folks themselves othering me for using it

the word "queer," identity/usage/perception 

im tired in general of being treated differently for being cis-passing, despite the fact that im doing it both out of fear as well as comfort in some expressions...bc thats how genderfluidity WORKS

im tired of having to out myself for the sake of discussion rather than when its relevant or im comfortable, and im tired of explaining that im the same person i was before but now theres a word for my identity and a community i belong to bc of it

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the word "queer," identity/usage/perception 

most importantly, im tired of cis women lumping me in as "one of the guys" despite the fact i do a pretty good job of othering myself from "the guys" myself, and how coming off as queer means many have to find a way to just quite place their finger on me and it ends up being as "gay man" rather than "why is this any of my business? if it comes up, it does"

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the word "queer," identity/usage/perception 

many mainstream dictionaries (google and merriam webster, for instance) both still list "queer" as a particularly offensive word without clarification to the actual body that both uses AND lives it, unlike other similar terms of reclamation

the one mainstreamed area i could find that remotely touched on this was wikipedia/wiktionary, both roughly part of the same project

this needs fixed

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